I'm going to stray a bit from the norm and respond to a comment.
"You've got to learn to set the camera and the timer so
you can be in at least a few."
Well, I am in these pictures. Not in the physical sense that's me. My true self. But in the sense that in each picture of my daughter you will see a small part of me. Not sure what part exactly. The attitude, or maybe just the nose? She does look more like her Daddy's side of the family, but I know I'm in there somewhere too. I mean, I did give birth to her.
For sure you will see me in my son's face. Again, not the physical me that I am now,
but the me that I was long, long ago.
So, you will see me, if not physically in body,
but for sure in the legacies that are my children.
I prefer to remain behind the camera. I don't feel that I photograph very well.
Others will argue; my sister and friends;
and it's from those others where you will find the photographs of me,
but I know how I feel, and I don't feel like being in front of the camera.
You don't always need a photograph to capture a memory.
Some of my best "growing up" memories have no photographic trail, but I remember them.
I remember my Mom going on all of my school field trips with me; taking time out of her work schedule; to visit many of the places back then that I have gone with my kids since they began school.
|Yates Cider Mill with Mrs. Girling and Allie's 3rd Grade class.|
|Ann Arbor Hands-On Science Center with Mrs. Hawe's 4th Grade class.|
I remember my Dad being at my sporting events and
helping me with my history homework.
|Warren Police Athletic League (PAL) Summer 2010|
|Warren PAL Summer 2010|
I remember fishing on the banks of the river with Dad, while Mom sat and watched us beg Dad to put worms on our hooks or take the fish off 'cause "Oooo gross. I don't wanna touch that!"
|My niece, Shelby|
|My Dad (Papa) with my nephew, Nate.|
You see, there are more ways to make a memory and to hold on to it forever besides taking a photograph. Granted, I absolutely love having a camera in my hands and trying to capture a moment in time. Maybe it is because there isn't much of a photographic trail of my childhood memories. Maybe not.
Maybe it's just this generation trying to be all "hi-techie".
I do want to believe that my kids will someday look back on all these adventures and have their special memories of Mom being there. Being there for the school field trips. Walking-With-God (and a sprained ankle) all over downtown Detroit along with a couple hundred scouts and other parents. Coaching baseball. Hiking thru trees, down trails, uphill, over rocks and on a beach. Traipsing all over the Zoo, Greenfield Village, Cedar Point and Belle Isle when my knee was in so much pain I would just stuff my tears deep inside and muddle on, so I could be there to capture those moments.
|Our very first Scout Day at Comerica Park|
|At Fitzgerald High School volunteering for Eagle Scout Fundraiser|
|Celebrity Server Night at Elias Bros. Big Boy|
|4th of July in Gramma and Papa's backyard|
|Vacation up north August 2008|
|Summer School field trip to the Detroit Zoo|
|Disney on Ice - 2010|
|Girls On the Run 5K marathon in Plymouth, MI - June 2010|
|Warren PAL baseball Summer 2009|
|One of our many, many trips to the Detroit Zoo|
|Scout Picnic at Shaw Park - Summer 2010|
|Yo Gabba Gabba at the Fox Theater in Detroit, MI - October 2010|
|4th Grade field trip to Greenfield Village - October 2010|
|Haunted Hayride at Blake's Orchard - 2010|
|Warren PAL Soccer - Spring 2011|
|Cedar Point - June 2011|
|Warren PAL baseball - Summer 2010|
|Surprise! It's your birthday gift. We're seeing the Ringling Bros. Barnum and Bailey Circus |
at The Palace of Auburn Hills. November 2009
|Hollywood Night dance at Mound Park.|
I'm not a perfect parent.
I'm not a perfect person.
But I try.
I do my very best every day.
I don't know what kind of memories my children will have when they are grown and learn what it's like to "reflect back on the day". Will they be good memories? Will they wonder "Why isn't Mom in any of these pictures?" Or will they be able to reach deep in to their minds and remember as I have done?
I'm in the pictures too. I'm always there.